I cheated on my fiancée but Deidre said to keep quiet...

I was just reading the agony aunt page Dear Deidre in The Sun from 2 days ago (I'm a bit behind and I'm just catching up), when I came across this letter...

 

(Sorry, I circled it because I wanted to remind myself to blog about it, and because I was angry.) 

The letter to Deidre basically says that he has cheated on his fiancée with a prostitute on his stag do. He explains that he has been with his fiancée for 3 years, and says the only good thing about cheating on her is that 'any temptation (that) is put in front of me again, I will remember how awful I feel right now.' Well, that is a good thing isn't it mate?!  

More shocking than the stupid man that wrote this letter is Deirdre's response. 

Her advice is to NOT tell his fiancée that he has cheated on her. 

'...We all make mistakes, the important thing is to note them and move on. If you find it impossible to keep it in, offload it in confidence.' Hmm nice advice Deidre- not. 

Surely this poor woman deserves to know the truth before she promises to love, honour and obey, forsaking all others? 

I am gobsmacked that an agony aunt could advise him to keep quiet only for this woman to find out later down the line and divorce him because he kept it from her. 

Forgiving a fling on a stag do to me seems a lot easier to forgive than possibly years of lying. 

Besides if this guys mates know, it's only a matter if time before it gets out from one of them when they are drunk- possibly even at her own wedding. 

You have given rubbish and damaging advice Deidre. My advice (my Dear Rebecca column will be in a newspaper near you very shortly), is that it is far better to face the consequences now. This man/mouse should tell his fiancée the truth before it's too late and his dirty little secret destroys both of their lives. 

If they are meant to be together, than they will be, but taking away her choice of deciding if he is the one for her after he has cheated, just seems cruel. 

Pick up the balls that you left in Amsterdam mate and tell the woman you 'love' the truth. 

Oh and Deirdre, maybe it's time to hang up your agony aunt pen- but that's just my advice.